It's important to find a babysitter that your kids trust and can have fun with, and it is just as important that your babysitter can have fun with your kids.
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i think that grandmaws can babysit, as long as you sit down and setup guidlines of how you want your child to be cared for. If the grandmother breaks those agreements, then she shouldnot be allowed to babysit anymore.
I agree with your post Lisa. There are many reasons grandmas should not babysit full time. They should babysit... maybe once a week if they want. I mean, all grandmas want to see their grandchildren.
However, it simply comes down to the fact that they are not their parents. Many grandparents feel they are finished raising kids and although they love their grandchildren, can easily get tired.
Personally, I feel like I have certain rules of which my in-laws don't adhere to. This makes it very uncomfortable for me to let my child spend a lot of time over there.
I can't believe that your relationship with your mom was like that at the time, Lisa! I am so sorry to hear that, but I'm glad that it worked out in the end. I truly agree on your post 100%. In my case, my mom moved to West Virginia before my family did when I was 6 years old.She stayed in Charleston for 3 years. So my dad ended up being my "mom and dad." Due to this, my dad and I became really close. So when it came around the time when my mom came back from WV, I favored my dad the most. It broke her heart. It's sad to say that I still favor my dad over my mom today. However, things have changed because she knows I'm getting married in a year and half...and we've gotten a lot closer cooking and planning for my wedding.
Grandma's are wonderful babysitters for an evening, a day or even an occasional weekend. I believe that a grandma's love, understanding, patience and heritage is very beneficial to a child's development. Any child who can develop a close relationship with a grandparent will be a better person. Unlike your mom, my mother told me she would not babysit everyday if I went back to work. She wanted to be a true "Grandma" not a babysitter. She wanted their time together to be special...she had already raised her children she didn't want to raise her grandchildren. There is no possible way that a relationship will remain that way if a grandma and grandchildren are together 9-10 hours a day. The Grandma takes on a different role being a fulltime caregiver. So, yes I agree with your blog
I love you blog. My grandmother used to babysit me a lot when i was very young and it caused us to have a great bond. I think my mother however, began to have some prblems with it becuase they would tell eachother how to do things. Also, she was a foster mom for a few children as well
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i think that grandmaws can babysit, as long as you sit down and setup guidlines of how you want your child to be cared for. If the grandmother breaks those agreements, then she shouldnot be allowed to babysit anymore.
I agree with your post Lisa. There are many reasons grandmas should not babysit full time. They should babysit... maybe once a week if they want. I mean, all grandmas want to see their grandchildren.
However, it simply comes down to the fact that they are not their parents. Many grandparents feel they are finished raising kids and although they love their grandchildren, can easily get tired.
Personally, I feel like I have certain rules of which my in-laws don't adhere to. This makes it very uncomfortable for me to let my child spend a lot of time over there.
It's all about the keywords: "full time".
I can't believe that your relationship with your mom was like that at the time, Lisa! I am so sorry to hear that, but I'm glad that it worked out in the end. I truly agree on your post 100%. In my case, my mom moved to West Virginia before my family did when I was 6 years old.She stayed in Charleston for 3 years. So my dad ended up being my "mom and dad." Due to this, my dad and I became really close. So when it came around the time when my mom came back from WV, I favored my dad the most. It broke her heart. It's sad to say that I still favor my dad over my mom today. However, things have changed because she knows I'm getting married in a year and half...and we've gotten a lot closer cooking and planning for my wedding.
Grandma's are wonderful babysitters for an evening, a day or even an occasional weekend. I believe that a grandma's love, understanding, patience and heritage is very beneficial to a child's development. Any child who can develop a close relationship with a grandparent will be a better person. Unlike your mom, my mother told me she would not babysit everyday if I went back to work. She wanted to be a true "Grandma" not a babysitter. She wanted their time together to be special...she had already raised her children she didn't want to raise her grandchildren. There is no possible way that a relationship will remain that way if a grandma and grandchildren are together 9-10 hours a day. The Grandma takes on a different role being a fulltime caregiver. So, yes I agree with your blog
I love you blog. My grandmother used to babysit me a lot when i was very young and it caused us to have a great bond. I think my mother however, began to have some prblems with it becuase they would tell eachother how to do things. Also, she was a foster mom for a few children as well
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